How To Save A Relationship In 6 Simple Steps And Raise It To A Higher Level

Most breakups are totally preventable - but you cannot do what feels "natural" (calling all the time, apologizing endlessly, etc.).

Instead - You Have to Do THIS >>

Andy works hard at his job and spends many hours trying to meet the requirements of his job. Jill, his wife, often feels overwhelmed tending to the kids without Andy around. She feels his always not there for her or the kids. However, Andy himself thinks that Jill does not appreciate his hard work and seems oblivious to his needs.

Indeed it's pretty much the same story often times and the result is much too predictable. Question is how to save a relationship like this and should it be saved?

Let's see what steps can be taken to save the relationship.

Primary Step: Deciding Whether To Save The Relationship.

The first step is of course to agree that the relationship is worth saving. Given the right advice and enough effort, most relationship can be saved. But what is more important is the commitment of both parties to make it work. If either party decide to call it quits, there is really not much that can be done.

Now this decision must be based on the real desire to make it work. If it is just because it is more convenient to stay married or because of the children, then most often the result will not be good.

Obviously you need to start working out the problems in the relationship.

Unfortunately, even though it may seem simple, this is where many people who is trying to figure out how to save a relationship do it all wrong. Often time, a symptom of a problem is being classified as the problem itself.

For example, many people think the affair as the problem. However, that is actually the symptom of a bigger problem - either the lack of communications or lack of intimacy. So even though you may prevent future affairs through guilt, the core problem has not been addressed and the possibility of the party involved looking for alternative outlet for the problem is there.

So the key is to identify and separate the core problems from their symptoms. Doing this will allow you to solve the problem properly.

Most couples lack the ability to communicate effectively and this step will be difficult to a lot of people. However, sharing and listening to each other's thoughts and feelings is a crucial step to healing the relationship. Remember to hold each other's hands as you go through this process to tell your partner that you want to reconnect with them. Also, you will hear things that might hurt you but just remember that your partner is just pouring out their concerns and trying to make all of this work again.

Step Four: Devise an Action Plan

You need to follow-up the sharing session with a concrete plan of action to tackle the issues raised.

Step Five: Start The Wheel of Actually Doing What You Plan

Planning is good but action is better. Set your plan into action right away. If lack of communications is the core problem, then really set aside time to do so and stick to it. For example, reserve one day, say every Thursday, as your date night and spend time alone together. Or set 20 minutes each day, perhaps before sleep, just listening and talking to the other party. These little things make a lot of difference so get on it quickly.

Step 6: Repeat Steps 1 to 5 Again

Yes, saving a relationship will be continuous process. There is no magic pill to take to solve all your problems immediately. It will be a constant forward and backwards process - you seem to move two steps forward but one step backwards. That is to be expected but the good thing is that is progress. The important thing is to minimize on the blaming game and focus on appreciating every little effort at improving the relationship.

Those are the 6 simple steps of how to save a relationship. Don't procrastinate and put it into action and start saving your relationship.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren't my original ideas. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called The Magic Of Making Up. And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.